It's been 2 weeks...

Yup, time flies....it's already 2 weeks since Hun's mom went into the hospital throught A&E, had her op, transfered from ICU to the general ward. By God's grace, we survived these 2 weeks, and still managed to get quite a few things accomplised for our wedding preps.

Last week I attended a course on Grief and Bereavement Counselling. Due to what I'm facing now, this course seems more apt and applicable at this point in my life. It set me thinking...much has been researched on caring for the patient/victim and their caregivers, I'm wondering if there's any research done on caring for the supporters of the caregivers.

You won't wonder why I'm asking that question...cos I see myself as a supporter of the caregiver of the patient. And having gone through it, it's really not an easy role at all! The patient has her struggles going through her own physical pain, the caregiver is emotionally affected and physically tired from caring and providing support to the patient. The supporter therefore supports the caregiver as much as possible.

Think the supported needs to be strong enough to also seek support of her own. Talking to friends really help. I'm really glad I have social work friends...for the first time when someone reflected my feelings to me and empathised with me, I felt comforted. Ironic right? I do that to people in the course of my counselling work, never knowing how it really felt to be at the receiving end...

And yes....blogging helps too. Better than having to bottle everything inside. It's kind of tough really...when you see your beloved so upset, so when you are upset yourself, you must have to handle it. Cos its the time when you need to be there for him, not the time to demand attention (which I sometimes still do). But it's times like these I really find myself being extra tolerant and understanding, and more dependent on God than before.

It was really tough the first few days....after all I felt my own world was shaken too! That's when we quarrelled. That was something I really regretted....and I'm trying my best not to let it happen again. He's trying his best too, I appreciate that. Now, I kind of gotten used to it. Perhaps we both learned to trust each other more and appreciate each other more too.

Hard to explain lah...but definitely something good came out of this. I feel our relationship strengthened...I think it's because both of us are less selfish and more considerate for each other.

Well, if given a chance to choose again, I wouldn't want my wedding preps to happen any other way. I believe God has allowed this to happen and thus He will watch over us. He can make every situation into a testimony of His greatness and glory.

Praise God for a Speedy Recovery

Hun's mom is out of the ICU today and will be transfered to a general ward. Her surgeon was very happy with the recovery from the op. That's great news to all of us, especially Hun's family. I went to see her on sat, she was having lunch and could eat one-third of the porridge that was given to her. I think it's a really good progress and God is really healing her at a miraculous rate.

Just very thankful that she is recovering well. At the moment, Hun does not know how she is physically, if she can walk on her own, eat on her own etc. Basically cos she can't move at the moment for the simple reason that she's still being hooked up to all those monitoring machines. But all these will known when she's in the general ward and when she's no longer hooked up.

But I believe that God will grant her a Miraculous Recovery, cos that's what I believe was inspired upon my heart to pray for her for. Many brothers and sisters in Christ has also shared with Hun that they sense in their spirit that this is an experience that will glorify God's name, and that all will see that only God would have been able to perform such a miracle in her life.

I pray that this will also be a life transforming experience for Hun's mom, and she will know God like never before, that she will be a woman used for God for His glory. And also Hun's family will rise up and begin to be used by God to touch and change lives too. I believe God has greater plans for Hun's family, and I pray that they will be willing and obediant and offer their lives to be used by God. Amen!

It all happened so quickly

We received an sms alert on 1 Mar at about 2AM in the morning. Hun's mom lost consciousness and was admitted to A&E via an ambulance. We woke up to pray for his mom. That night I couldn't really sleep well at all...my heart was just pumping so quickly and I kept waking up almost every hour. I hope nothing had happened to Hun's mom.

At 5 plus AM, I smsed Hun to ask him how things were, he said that his mom was admitted into ICU ward after being diagnosed has having suffered from a stroke attack. I told him I'll take a day's leave to be with him.

Mom offered to go down with me to visit Hun's mom. Thereafter I'll be staying on a little while longer to accompany him before leaving him with his family to handle to administrative matters like talking to the doc etc...

We reach at about 12 plus and had lunch at the Kopitiam food court at TTSH before going to visit Hun's mom. I couldn't really eat as well. Just had their toast and egg set. When we went up to the ICU ward, we saw Hun and his family sleeping in one of the cubicles meant for family members of the ICU patients. we didn't want to disturb them so we proceeded directly into the ward to take a look at Hun's mom.

We saw her sleeping there, hooked up to all the various machines. It's the first time I've been in an ICU ward. When I saw her lying there, my heart ached. Just 3 nights ago I was having dinner with her, and now, suddenly she's lying there, looking so frail and fragile. When we went out, Hun's family woke as one of his brothers saw us. Hun just looked very tired.

After we chatted for a little while, they went in to look at Hun's mom. We joined them later for awhile before she was pushed down to the Neuroscience department to have a brain scanned and for the doctors to decide what to do. I didn't go along with them at first. But later Hun came up to look for us to tell us what was going on and asked if we would like to join them. Mom said she'll go home first while I wished to stay with Hun for a while more.

There are the Neuroscience, docs informed the family exactly what had happened and they were given 2 options of surgery. They chose the one option which the doctors has recommended, which although is a higher risked procedure, there are much lesser after effects after the op. It all happened very soon...at about 3pm she was pushed to the Neuroscience, by 5:30pm, the op was to take place.

I could see that Hun and his family were very worried and anxious. Hun's mom looked scared too, and we kept assuring here that Jesus was with her and would be with her throughout the operation. I then let Hun and his family spend some private time together before she was finally pushed into the operation theatre.

When they came out, Mom and I had dinner with Hun and his big brother. After dinner, Mom and I went home while Hun and his bro went back to await the completion of the op. It must have been a very anxious 5 hour wait for them. I myself felt so restless the entire evening and kept on praying.

I was very tired and went to bed early at about 10pm. I prayed and interceeded while the op was still carrying on and kept praying for God to watch over the operation. As I was praying in tongues, I was inspired to sing songs of victory. I was impressed by the Holy Spirit that this was a battle, and one of the keys to winning a battle was to sing victory songs. So I just kept on singing and proclaiming victory over the operation and over her health. As I was singing I started to get more excited...in a happy way. So I sensed that the operation would be a success. Not sure how long I have prayed before I fell asleep, I think it was about 30mins. But soon I was awaken and I messaged Hun to ask him how was the outcome. Hun called me back and said she wasn't out yet. So I just continued praying and soon fell asleep again. At about 11 plus, Hun msged to say that the op was a success! The family just spoke to the doc but they have not seen his mom yet.

It was such a joyful moment! And I wish I could be there to share his joy and relief, but I was definitely there with him in spirit!

Now we'll just keep praying for the restoration of her health, praying for complete success of the operation with no implications and complications, and a very miraculous healing process. And we believe and give thanks that God has heard the prayer of his children and he has honoured that efforts put in by the fellow brothers and sisters in Christ as they joined Hun's family in unity to interceed for Hun's mom.

It all happened in 1 day, but this day we saw what Christian love is. I'm sure Hun's family must have felt very supported with so many believers upholding them in prayer. Praise God for good friends and family-in-Christ in times of needs such as this!