Bro's Gig @ Bar None

Went to Bar None to support my bro's first 'official' gig that his band (You And Whose Army?) is performing. Must say that it was a great show considering it was their first! Could see the band really put in effort in their work. Played about 6 to 7 numbers, out of which only 1 was not their original work. I'm really amazed...tho i'm not really an indie/rock/alternative or whatever you call that kind of music person, i enjoyed myself :) I enjoyed the way they wrote their songs, and their style...it's just beautiful when something so intricate and complex can come out of mere inspiration. The band really played as one and connected with each other. Of course the crowd was good too! Mostly their friends I would say...and a couple of members from a renowned local band came to lend their support too.

Could see my bro was nervous at the beginning, and totally high when the gig ended. Can see the joy and sense of achievement written all over his face! Glad to see him taking something so seriously and going this far with it...great job YAWA?!

Almost 2 weeks....

It's been almost 2 weeks into my life as Mrs Tan. Adjusting to sleeping with someone beside me is easier than I imagined. I thought that for awhile I might not get used to sharing a bed with Hun, but it ends up that I am so tired at the end of each day that I just slept right through!

Life has been in overdrive mode for me since we came back from our honeymoon. There seems to be an unending list of things to do! Each day I reach home, I'm busy packing or unpacking, washing clothes, cleaning the house....until bedtime. Up till now I do not understand how come there's just so many things to do in our simple house when there's just the 2 of us and we don't cook often! I don't even find and interest in watching TV anymore! (ok lah..partly cos no cable tv yet...so I can't watch all my favourite programmes...*sobsob*) Up till now I'm stil puzzled...there's also an unending list of things to buy! Never imagined setting up a home takes so much effort!

Thank God that Hun is a very neat person and he happily undertakes the task of packing new things that we bought into the shelves...in an organized and sensible manner. He's a good organizer and I really appreciate that. He also helps to fold the clothes after I've taken them out from the dryer or the bamboo poles. I kind of enjoy ironing now...so I'll do the ironing and Hun will do the folding (which I don't like to do). He folds clothes really nicely too! Helps me keep my portion of the wardrobe neat :)

Right now we don't open our windows as we are seldom home most part of the day. Thankfully our house is not dusty so cleaning up is not such a big issue yet. But I still like to keep my bedroom clean so at least every other day I'll make sure the bedroom is mopped. Tomorrow's saturday and I'm looking forward to it...I love the morning sun cos I can hang my clothes out to dry and it has the nice sun-dried smell :)

"It's time to wash the bedsheet, pillowcases and quilt cover tomorrow...may need to wash in 2 batches in the morning..which means I'll need to wash the clothings tonight. Maybe use the dryer cos I'll need the bamboo tomorrow morning...if possible I wanna wash the floor mats too..." These are the things going through my head day and night since I started staying at my own home...I find myself planning what I need to do the next day...like what time I'll need to wake so I can bathe before Hun and prepare our breakfast...many things...

Hun tells me he doesn't need me to prepare breakfast for him, he can always buy outside. But maybe it's just be...a self-given obligation to make sure there's nice breakfast ready from my husband, and also a time where we can make it a point to sit down together to eat. In retrospect, I'm amused at how the set of value system in me has propelled certain actions which I didn't imagine I'm capable of.

Well, all I can say for now is that marriage has made me a little bit more disciplined and hardworking around the house. But it's just been 2 weeks...let's see when the Cable TV is up...and I have access to my favourtie programmes once again...will I still be so disciplined...haha...

All in all, to summarize, marriage has been great so far :) except that I do miss my silly little Fusuke. Will get to see him tonight! yeah!!

Hello, I'm back!

After more than a month of dormancy on Cookiejar, I'm back!!

It's been a busy month with my wedding and housing....but I'm glad that the wedding's finally over! Today's the 10th day of my marriage, and I'm enjoying every bit of it...even the housework! haha....It just feels different when you have your own home...you just wanna keep everything nice and neat!

Yesterday night we officially used our iron for the first time...it was quite a disaster :( the steam iron keeps dripping water that we decided to drain all the water out and use it just as a normal iron instead...but I'm gonna try it with water again!

Hun's been great with the housework...he helped to clean the floors and the kitchen while I did the laundry and also the floors. He's such a neat person and now my home is so organized and neat! Over the weekend, we had both our parents over to visit and we could tell that they liked our place very much :)

Honeymoon was great too! Will blog more about that when the pics are up...*wink*

Started work today...so it's another phase...no more honeymoon liao...praying that we'll learn to adjust to mundane life and make excitement out of our daily routines to keep our romance alive in marriage!

But for the moment...I'm still sleepy...maybe it's just work lah...not in the working gear yet...haha...

Hun's got a new job!

Hun's got a new job! Yeah! This means a better pay which really comes in handy :) Now we feel more secure in going on monthly instalments for our purchases. Really thank God that he got a pay that he was happy with and they also allowed him to start in mid-May which means we can plan for our honeymoon :)

Thank God for financial providence at this time of need!

It's been 2 weeks...

Yup, time flies....it's already 2 weeks since Hun's mom went into the hospital throught A&E, had her op, transfered from ICU to the general ward. By God's grace, we survived these 2 weeks, and still managed to get quite a few things accomplised for our wedding preps.

Last week I attended a course on Grief and Bereavement Counselling. Due to what I'm facing now, this course seems more apt and applicable at this point in my life. It set me thinking...much has been researched on caring for the patient/victim and their caregivers, I'm wondering if there's any research done on caring for the supporters of the caregivers.

You won't wonder why I'm asking that question...cos I see myself as a supporter of the caregiver of the patient. And having gone through it, it's really not an easy role at all! The patient has her struggles going through her own physical pain, the caregiver is emotionally affected and physically tired from caring and providing support to the patient. The supporter therefore supports the caregiver as much as possible.

Think the supported needs to be strong enough to also seek support of her own. Talking to friends really help. I'm really glad I have social work friends...for the first time when someone reflected my feelings to me and empathised with me, I felt comforted. Ironic right? I do that to people in the course of my counselling work, never knowing how it really felt to be at the receiving end...

And yes....blogging helps too. Better than having to bottle everything inside. It's kind of tough really...when you see your beloved so upset, so when you are upset yourself, you must have to handle it. Cos its the time when you need to be there for him, not the time to demand attention (which I sometimes still do). But it's times like these I really find myself being extra tolerant and understanding, and more dependent on God than before.

It was really tough the first few days....after all I felt my own world was shaken too! That's when we quarrelled. That was something I really regretted....and I'm trying my best not to let it happen again. He's trying his best too, I appreciate that. Now, I kind of gotten used to it. Perhaps we both learned to trust each other more and appreciate each other more too.

Hard to explain lah...but definitely something good came out of this. I feel our relationship strengthened...I think it's because both of us are less selfish and more considerate for each other.

Well, if given a chance to choose again, I wouldn't want my wedding preps to happen any other way. I believe God has allowed this to happen and thus He will watch over us. He can make every situation into a testimony of His greatness and glory.