Reaping what you sow

It's scary that things like this is becoming more common in Singapore.

A case of under-aged pregnancy which led to tensions between the families of the couple. Quarrels over who should be responsible and who should take care of the baby are happening more frequently. The young couple is also under stressed from their family members...tho I do not know, I believe this is very trying for their relationship.

Sets me thinking...if they have not had sex, they wouldn't be in this situation now. Thinking further, if they had stopped themselves from having sex the first time, then perhaps it would not have led to subsequent ones which ultimately resulted in getting pregnant.

What the Word says is so true...that we reap what we sow...

I have compassion for this young couple...I can only imagine the kind of stress they are going through...whether they ultimately are the ones who bring up the baby or not, this has forced them to grow up sooner than they should. I'm sure they have regretted it...but somethings cannot be reversed.

I'm a believer that humans are capable of certain responsibilities at certain age. For example, in this modern time and age, a young couple below 18 and still studying is definitely NOT ready for parenthood. But yet parental instinct is also natural...so the result is them carrying a responsibility that's way too big for their young shoulders to carry. It's not impossible, but near impossible.

It's already difficult enough to bring up a baby, but to give the baby sufficient love and care, parents have to be physically, emotionally, financially equipped to be prepared for the lifelong responsibility of parenthood. But for this young couple, its really an uphill task. And things are not made easier by their own parents.

But stand on the parent's side and you may get a glimpse of what they are going through. Blaming the guy for impregnating their daughter, but at the same time angry and disappointed with their daughter, yet not daring to be too harsh on her cos she's pregnant and already in distress herself. The guy's parents blame the guy (guys always gets blamed for this first, cos when he's turned on, the organ that is thinking is not his brain), but they know that it take 2 hands to clap. They can't really blame the gal's parents for being upset, but yet they can't help feeling frustrated themselves. The gal, already feeling vulnerable, becomes demanding and possessive, but that's just because she is afraid that the guy would leave her to care for the baby on her own. The guy cracks under pressure and have thoughts of just leaving everything and move on with life. The baby? Before he/she's born, is already feeling the blame and rejection from his family. These are all very real and possible things that the families goes through. And it so difficult.

Only love can help them overcome all these....but no ordinary love...it has got to be a love that's strengthened by God himself. For the parents, it takes an unconditional love to overcome their own frustrations and disappointments to still give love to their children and grandchild; the couple needs to learn how to love beyond infatuation, to love even in bad times, to love enough to care and support even though they are hurting, to love unselfishly. And they need to love each other enough to draw strength to love their little one.

As I'm reflecting, I thank God for my life and the perils He has protected me from. I had a happy childhood in an intact family, I was free from BGR troubles through my teenage years, I have wonderful friends in my late teens/young adult years (of course I fell in love a few times with the wrong ppl ie it was one sided on my part, but it's over now and we're still good friends!). I had often prayed to have a boyfriend and have gotten impatient to be in a relationship cos everyone around me have been in one before!

But I'm glad I waited, or rather God preserved me for the best. Today I'm happily engaged to my Hun, who is also my first and only boyfriend. Though I have waited 23 years to meet him, it was worth the while cos I'm convinced that he is the best that God had prepared for me :)

No, I'm not gloating at other's sufferings, but I do feel thankful for all the things that I have and it becomes even more obvious how blessed when I compare myself with others who are not so fortunate as me.

I do feel alot for the couple and their families...and I pray that God's peace will be with them. Receiving a baby into the world should be a joyful thing...and I pray that they will overcome all their differences and receive that joy! And I pray that the baby will get the love and concern of his family too...Amen!